Sex & Relationships

Sexual difficulty is rarely just about sex.

More often it's about how safe we feel in our own skin, how connected we feel to another person, and the stories we've quietly carried about who we are and what we deserve.

Many people arrive with a sense of shame — feeling that something is wrong with them, that they are broken in some way, or that their desires or difficulties are too difficult to speak about. They're not. Whatever has brought you here, you will be met with openness and without judgement.

I don't work from a diagnostic checklist. I'm not here to fix a symptom or label an experience. I'm interested in what your sexuality means to you — what it's connected to, what gets in the way, and what you're longing for.

This might include:

Feeling disconnected from desire, or from your partner

Anxiety or pressure around sex that has made it something to dread rather than enjoy

Experiences from your past that still shape how you feel in intimacy today

Questions about your identity, your body, or your sense of self

Shame that has never had a place to be spoken aloud

I work with individuals and couples, and with people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. The work is relational, exploratory and grounded in honesty — at a pace that feels right for you.

For Individuals

Many people arrive with a sense of shame — feeling that something is wrong with them, that their desires or difficulties are too embarrassing to speak about. They're not. Whatever has brought you here, you'll be met with openness and without judgement.

This might mean exploring:

A disconnection from desire, or from your own body

Anxiety or pressure around sex that has made it something to dread

Experiences from your past that still quietly shape your intimate life

Questions about your identity, your sexuality, or your sense of self

Sexual behaviour that feels compulsive or is causing you distress — whether that's around pornography, dating apps, or patterns you keep returning to

A history of sexual violence or abuse that you're ready to look at with support

For Couples

Couples come when something has shifted — when connection has faded, conflict has become the default, or intimacy has quietly disappeared. Sometimes they come in crisis. Sometimes they just know something isn't working and can't quite name what.

We might explore:

Communication that has broken down or never quite worked

Trust that has been damaged — by an affair, by repeated disappointments, or by years of distance

Loneliness inside the relationship

Patterns that keep repeating, however hard you try to change them

Loss of sexual or emotional intimacy

Big transitions — fertility struggles, relationship endings, starting again

Thoughts on Sexuality

I believe sexuality is one of the most human things about us — and one of the most poorly served. Most of us grow up absorbing shame about our bodies, our desires, our fantasies and our identities, often without even realising it. That shame doesn't stay in the bedroom. It shapes how we relate to ourselves and to the people we're closest to.

This is work I take seriously. And I bring to it both professional experience — including several years as a psychosexual therapist at 56 Dean Street — and a personal understanding of what it means to navigate identity and sexuality in a world that doesn't always make that easy.

I work with individuals and couples of all sexual orientations and gender identities. If any of this resonates, you're welcome to get in touch for a free 30-minute introductory conversation.